Thursday, January 16, 2014
Complete vs. Complement
Tom Cruise got it wrong. I mean, besides the whole Scientologist thing. His famous line from Jerry Maguire was "You Complete Me." He said it to some woman and she swooned and they lived happily ever after. But, he was wrong.
The problem with looking for someone to complete you is that it implies that you aren't 100% unless this person is in your life. And that is a problem. You should be fulfilled in your life, your career, your friends, your family, and your God (sha-tah) without the aid of a significant other. Besides, why would God bless you with a husband/wife if you aren't a whole person?
Instead, you should look for a life mate who complements you. No, not compliments (although that is important); your partner should support you, make you better, and make positive additions to your life. Just like a belt complements a dress or a glass of wine complements a meal; it ain't necessary, but it makes it that much better.
I know dating can sometimes suck, but you've probably been going after the wrong partners. Change your search from one of completion to complementary. I think you'll be amazed at what you find.